settling in

    SETTLING
    IN.....

We have officially settled into our new home.  One weekend of hard working people, and a week of evening organizing, and our place finally looks and feels like home!  It feels so good to be back on our own with our own little family again (no offense to our old roomies Kristi and Brian....but I'm sure they are glad we are out too ;) ).  Finally got the internet, home phone and tv again!  We were needless to say, a little bored, and I don't think this house could be ANY cleaner!!  We did catch wifi from some neighbour in the back corner of the house, but then they put up a password, so we bit the bullet, and got our own - so now I can blog again.  I can't help but say how much of a life change this is/has been.  If anyone has seen the series "weeds"... and knows the opening tune (little boxes.....) - this song has been stuck in my head since we moved in.  Every time I go out side, or get in the car, or look out a window...boom, the song is stuck in my head again, and I'm not sure if that's ever going to go away.  Its a song about subdivisions, and how every house looks the same - which is where we are now.  We had to put a golf flag in our front flower bed so we would know which house was ours, until we noticed that our neighbours beside us have a car that never leaves their driveway...so we are now using that as our marker.  Other than not knowing which place is ours, we have been limited to our out door fun.  We have decided to NOT go outside before 9 am on the weekends, we have to keep our windows closed, and the dog is NOT allowed out the front door.  We've heard windows slam in the mornings when we go out side, our windows stay shut so people don't know when I'm getting my rowdy children in trouble, or ignoring their cries for more candy (obviously that would be Parker....), AND we left our front door open while un loading the car, and the dog (our little precious Boston terrier) booked it out the door and attacked another dog being walked by his owner resulting in a very very un happy dog walker.  Roxy IS a nice dog, but shes used to chasing deer and bears, so seeing something she could possibly catch was just too exciting for her, that she didn't listen.  SO... that was all in the first 2 weeks since we have been here.  Life changing - YES.  Nerve wrecking - YES. I miss our acreage!!  and our privacy!!  BUT, Mikes job is going well, and we do have nice neighbours, and are loving being closer to family, and this IS just a temporary plan, so we will adjust accordingly.  Our house in Haliburton is still for sale, if anyone knows anyone who is looking (hint hint).....  We will most likely be doing (another :( ) price drop, just to get it sold, and out of our minds and budget.  Its a little dangerous living in the "city"... i can basically walk to walmart - which isn't good seeing as I used to drive 1.5 hours just to go to walmart!!  But enough about our adjustments and settling in... Lincoln is FINALLY starting speech again tomorrow!!  There has been dozens of phone calls back and forth between the SLP's, but finally all the paper work is in order, and we can get back on track! which is exciting!  He's getting very good at using his words, although Parker likes to correct him alot on how to 'properly' say such words...(Parker - mr. brains we call him... talks to much for a 2.25 year old), Lincoln is pretty understandable!  We have decided that he will continue to go to daycare for another year and start JK the following year.  We feel this is best for him, because he is such a high functioning child with down syndrome - the more help he gets the earlier in life, the further we feel he will go in life!  Its very exciting for me to have the thoughts and feelings that Lincoln is going places because he is doing so well!  There are successful down syndrome people out there, and its very re-assuring!  Lincoln doesn't require an extra person to be with him at daycare, but we were offered one for him to help with the transitioning (which he doesn't have a problem with).  The worker spends 'quiet/nap' time with Lincoln every Tuesday, and says its the best part of his week because he doesn't have to do anything (except fun activities like puzzles and books which Lincoln loves) because he is so easy going!!  Lincoln has a very high interest in learning, and loves challenges! (as much as we love challenging him!)  We have met our new pediatrician, who seems pretty good at what she does, and was shocked that Lincoln hadn't had regular blood work done for his thyroid, and an x ray of his spine to check his vertebrae.  We have done both with NO tears and excellent listening ears on, and both are looking good!  We are so blessed that he is healthy and thank God everyday for the miracle he has given us! 

                   
 - Loving all the Parks around!!

- Water!!! ... loves to swim!!
               

Thanks to everybody for reading!  Hope you're having a fantastic summer!!


*p.s. we miss everyone in Haliburton!

Decisions Decisions.....

Throughout these past 3 months, we have been put on the spot with decision after decision after decision.  New job offer, do we take it, do we move, do we sell our house in Haliburton, do we rent, do we buy again, do we wait for our house to sell before we buy again, do we buy in town or in the country, do we build or renovate... now that all of those decisions are taken care of... we took the job, we moved in with my sister for 2 months, we listed our house in Haliburton, renting was going to be too expensive so we bought again, bought what we could afford for now until our home in Haliburton sells, a 7 year old raised ranch right in the town of Strathroy with 3 beds, 2 baths and a finished basement.  Not our dream home as we have neighbours everywhere, but something that we are going to have to live with for the next few years until we save enough money to maybe build a house.  If those decisions were not hard enough... I have been struggling to make an even more important decision.  Do we send Lincoln to school this year?  He was registered for JK in Haliburton, i had to un-register him.  I had to register him in Strathroy... but didn't know where as we hadn't had a house until yesterday (confirmed) so it was just a general registration until we found a place.  If we were still in Haliburton we would be sending him to school because the support he got there would continue into the school years.  New to my knowledge here, in the Thames valley District, is that, due to majour cutbacks, once Lincoln starts school, He will no longer receive the support he needs to continue to develop at a average rate.  Speech pretty much stops when he starts school!  Lincoln is so close to talking (i think i say that every time, but for real... we are SO close).  I have had meetings upon meetings with new therapists, social workers, schools etc.  and the other day I was told by a professional that perhaps Lincoln should wait until next year to start JK because if he was in daycare for another year, he would receive full time support from therapists.  Its really got me thinking and wondering if that would be the best thing for him.  He is not yet potty trained (he was, then we moved, and he lost interest again... - but on the plus side, when we showed him our new house, he asked "dad" to show him the toilet because he had to pee... he.has.never.done.that!!!!  so this is exciting).  It will give us another year to work on that.  Lincoln and Zack wouldn't be going to the same school anyways because Zack is going to the Christian School in strathroy - which, with our double mortgage, just isn't going to be affordable this year.  My husband supports whatever decision I decide to make, but am finding it hard to make one.  I do truely believe that he could benefit from another year in daycare - so we can get the support he needs for now, and start kindergarten next year when he has a bit of a vocabulary.  I am open to opinions and thoughts to help me make my decision (which has to be SOON!)

Thanks Everyone :)

one day at a time

I know I have some people missing Lincoln (and the rest of us I'm sure ;) ), so I thought I should do a quick entry to let everyone aware as to whats happening in our lives right now.  We have been living with my sister, her hubby and 2 kids (same age as ours), for the past 3 weeks.  Its busy none the less, but we are actually having alot of fun!  Took a bit to get used to at the beginning with different routines and 8 around the dinner table, but we've got it all figured out now!  Its a good thing there are just as many adults as there are children around here! (for seating arrangement purposes) child, adult, child, adult, child, child.... OK, NOPE, that's not working, adult, child.  Its hectic, but we are used to it, and it IS just short term.  My kids know there are rules around here, and more people to stop them/get them into trouble, so they are behaving ok.  I am still staying at home with my boys, in a house, with too many doors, and too many sets of stairs (we didn't have stairs in Haliburton), so it certainly keeps me on my toes!  Mike is enjoying his new job, which takes him 15 min's to get to.  Putting in long days and learning more - which is great!!  We listed our house up for sale at the beginning of the week, so hopefully it wont be too long before it sells.  We are having a pretty hard time finding somewhere to rent as we only want to do short term, and many people want at least a 1 year contract, but we just keep phoning around, and I'm sure we will eventually find something (a few options are coming up in the middle of June - and it will be nice to be back in our own place with our own stuff.)  We've been watching the market of houses around here, and have a meeting coming up with a realtor to see what options we have and go from there.  I have re-registered Lincoln for kindergarten around here, but its hard to do that when we are not too sure where we will be living, but it shouldn't be a problem as long as we stay in the Thames valley school district.  My sister is the director of a daycare, and so its nice when she has free spots available to be able to take my kids too, also nice when there isnt room for her kids at daycare and she can leave them home with me!  We are starting to get things into action with Lincolns therapists and the transfers of files etc.  We have been a bit delayed with that because of the flooding that went on in Minden, but all in time, things will fall into place I'm sure!  So that's about it for now!  its been the same old same old 'new' around here, and we just keep taking it one step, one day at a time knowing God knows what the future holds.

Thanks for reading!!

Things are changing around here.....

What a busy month its been!!  It all started when I took my nephew for 2 weeks... mother of 3, wasn't too bad!  It really made me realize how quick kids grow up!!  Having Zack here was such a treat to not only me, but my kids, and also to Lincoln's daycare!!  It was nice having a kid around who asked for things, or told me what the matter was... but i do think he took advantage of being the only one who could speak to me, because nothing was ever his fault (smart kid).  Zack went to daycare with Lincoln on his daycare days, and the reports that we got back from when he was there were SOOO amazing.  - just on how much different Lincoln acted having his "buddy" there with him!  He was vocal, (usually he whispers to the teachers - for whatever reason...he does that at our speech sessions too until the session is almost over) and he kept trying to use his words, constantly by saying "Zack, come here, wheres Zack" etc.  I cant help but to wonder why he needed a "buddy" from out of town to show his true self!  Hes been with the kids at daycare for a year and a half! That was at the beginning of the month... if it had of been at the end of the month - Zack would not have been the only one to use his words with me.  Lincolns speech is getting so much better!  his "thank yous and pleases" are very clearly understood, and he is talking alot more using real words - not just gibberish!  That being said - about two weeks ago, Parker started talking full time ... with full sentences AND HE'S NOT EVEN 2!!!  "mom, whens supper" "mom, mom, mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy.... hi" "mommy, can i have a freezie" to name a few, and I really think it is encouraging Lincoln to try harder to use his words, which is perfect!!  So, now we are into the middle of the month, and we get a text from my dad - with a picture of an add in the paper of a company looking for a truss designer (which is what my husband does).  Being such a great opportunity for him to grow and learn more, he applied, and got the job!!  The job so happens to be back south, so we snapped our fingers and have been extremely busy ever since!  We have 2 more weeks to go here in Haliburton, then we are moving location to the Strathroy/London area.  We are extremely excited for this new opportunity, and to be closer to family and friends!  We are busy getting our house ready to be put on the market, and will be staying with my Sister and Brother - in - law (who conveniently live in Strathroy) until we sell our house and find something of our own.  I truly believe this to be a sign from God, and the timing couldn't be more perfect!  While theres no doubt in my mind that its going to be mayhem around here for probably over a month, getting new therapists, paediatricians, doctors, a new school to enroll in, another daycare to get to know more kids before school starts... Being closer to family and more Down Syndrome support groups is what is in our best interest - for Lincoln, and for our future!  Just a quick blog to update everyone in our plan, but I don't have much time to blog right now because all my packed boxes are being "un" packed... ugh.. kids :)

kindergarten??

Time keeps flying by no doubt!  A couple weeks ago, we registered Lincoln for KINDERGARTEN!!!  how crazy is that!  Next year is the year that Haliburton is starting full day everyday... which kind of scares me a little bit.  Not sure how things will go, but we will do what is best for Lincoln.  This coming May, we have a case conference with the school board in which everyone working with Lincoln will attend - including his daycare teacher, speech pathologist, occupational therapist, pediatrician, new teacher, and the SERT (special education resource teacher).  Our pediatrician said we have to come up with a reason why we think Lincoln is a danger to himself in order for him to get a full time EA... hmmmm, Ive got everyone trying to think of SOMETHING... cause he's such a good kid, we cant think of anything!?!?  He is progressing quite well these days, and I am pretty sure him and Parker will begin talking at the same time (tho Parker's words come out a little clearer).  Its funny listening to them play with each other - especially when they get upset, because they yell blabbing back and forth to each other until the referee (me) steps in to break things up before someones feelings get hurt.  Lincoln has become a bit of a puzzle addict.  He's so great with encouraging himself to finish it. And don't you dare try to put in a piece for him!!  He is doing 25 piece puzzles ... ALONE!!  Which is pretty advanced - for the typical child.  We have his upcoming ASQ (ages and stages questionnaire) coming up, and the early interventionist stated it was a gold star for a 48 month old to be able to put together a 6-8 piece puzzle.  He's got a couple 9 piece puzzles, but now thinks they are boring.  He will literally - do puzzles ALL DAY.  He's getting better with his balance, but we still don't like him run too fast - he's got very heavy feet, and falls hard if he gets going too fast.  His potty training is ... i would like to say finally almost done, but I don't want to jinx myself.  We have been potty training off and on since July, giving about a 2 month break in between because he simply didn't want to go!  He is now in underwear at home (or pull ups that are dry all day) with next to no accidents.  But every potty break usually takes about 15 mins because he likes to read his books on the toilet.  So hopefully this is it, we just have to teach him to tell us when he has to go - which he's done ONCE... He's pretty good at holding it though, so we just try to get him on every couple hours because he will hold it until he goes on the potty, but sometimes whines when it comes out cause he had been holding it for so long.  He's been staying pretty healthy through this winter, with just two ear infections and one chest infection, all which cleared up within 2 days.  We've been to the dentist 3 times and Lincoln is comfortable with the dentist, and she says his teeth look good.  We've been to the eye doctor too who says he doesn't need to see Lincoln again until hes in grade 3, so everything looks good there!!  Other than that, I'm not too sure anything else is really new with us in the North... we sure are looking forward to summer!!  Which we are signing Lincoln up for School's Cool to help him in the transition to school! There will be more to post after our case conference, so I'll be sure to keep you up to date!  Thanks for reading :)

finale... a word from Mike

Well, the week is coming to an end (the blogging week that is - relax, its only Wednesday!!)  My house is a disaster, laundry awaits being folded, and I am fresh out of ideas to blog about.   I have been begging my husband to do an entry all week - in which he declined because he doesn't like putting his thoughts out there.  I received a text today from my cousin saying she loved my everyday blogging.  I asked her for an idea, and she told me "Mikes point of view" ... So I guess I convinced him that people care about his thoughts - and anything he says is in his own opinion, and people can't judge!

 Mikes point of view 

"Where to start... 1st, the hardest thing was not being given the news, but it was facing everyone after the fact, and telling people.  I couldn't tell people for about a week straight without getting a lump in my throat or a tear in my eye, I played duck and hide and avoided people simply because I just couldn't say it.  I couldn't say 'Lincoln has been diagnosed with Down syndrome'.  I love him for who he is, and knowing that, didn't change anything.  Lincoln is a wonderful child who loves to watch me when I am working around the house and always wants to help out.  Whether it be picking up rocks, or chopping logs, he's a tuff kid and is always willing to lend a helping hand.  I don't research things about Down syndrome.  I take it one day at a time.  To me, it doesn't matter whats in the future.  Just that we enjoy our lives and live every moment to its fullest.  We all laugh with Lincoln, but sometimes I cant help but wonder if we may be hurting his feelings.  Sometimes I wonder if I worry too much.  Maybe I do, but that's how I feel.  I feel that I always have to watch him when he plays as he gets excited and forgets about his balance.  I also feel I have to watch him when he plays with other kids to see how they interact with each other as I am very protective over him, but I try not to get in the way.  I love that no matter where we are, even in a crowded room, as soon as I enter, and we make eye contact, He gives me a big smile and says "daddy" with a sigh of relief.  I'm sorry, but I am a man of few words and like to keep my emotions and thoughts to myself.  Just know that Linc is awesome, and is treated no different than Parker.  I only worry more about Linc and his health, getting sick, and his gross motor skills - even though they are well on their way."

Its been a challenge blogging all week - Its been a busy one! Thank you SO much to everyone who has been reading all week long.  Thank you for your wonderful words of encouragement and open hearts to accept people for who they are.  We've hit close to 800 viewers this week, and to me, that means a great deal!  There isn't much that I do for the community of Down syndrome - mostly because there isn't much around Haliburton, so the fact that a message is getting across to raise awareness-because of me, is so awwww-some and makes me feel like I'm actually getting a word out!! 

I'll end it with a poem I found today that I thought I would share with you :

Creed of Babies With Down Syndrome

My face may be different
But my feelings the same
I laugh and I cry
And I take pride in my gains
I was sent here among you
To teach you to love
As God in the heavens
Looks down from above
To Him I'm no different
His love knows no bounds
It's those here among you
In cities and towns
That judge me by standards
That man has imparted
But this family I've chosen
Will help me get started
For I'm one of the children
So special and few
That came here to learn
The same lessons as you
That love is acceptance
It must come from the heart
We all have the same purpose
Though not the same start
The Lord gave me life
To live and embrace
And I'll do it as you do
But at my own pace

what it's like.....

What its like to have a child with Down syndrome…. You may not get it.  You may wonder why God picked you, or feel upset.

Then you will realize that God has a plan for everyone. He just gave you a miracle -  and you can give something that goes beyond any circumstance, any health issue, and physical need.  You can give LOVE!

What its like to have a child with Down syndrome…. You may feel like you did something wrong.

Then you will realize that this precious miracle was given to you to fill a place in your heart, and you will be so blessed to have this experience.

What its like to have a child with Down syndrome…. you may feel overwhelmed with all the signing up you have to do, for early intervention and other services available, and you may spend hours on the phone and internet researching anything and everything.

Then you realize how blessed you are to have so many helping hands to maximize potential.

What its like to have a child with Down syndrome…. you may worry that your child wont meet certain milestones at the same pace as other children their age.

Then you realize after every milestone is reached, that its such an accomplishment!  You may work really hard reaching them, but when they are reached it so much MORE rewarding!

What its like to have a child with Down syndrome…. you may feel like you're always in the Dr. office or hospital or another appointment.

Then you realize that you're being the best mom you can be for your baby.

What its like to have a child with Down syndrome…. you may always think people are muttering behind you, or pointing or starring.

Then you realize that most people are well meaning, and you cant get upset at someone for not getting it, because it wasn't too long ago that you didn't "get it" either.

What its like to have a child with Down syndrome…. you may feel like things will never be the way they used to be.

Then you realize they won't - they'll be much better!  You'll still enjoy all the same things, but with a smile on your face and a heart full of joy.

What its like to have a child with Down syndrome…. you will see the world in a different way.  Your eyes will be opened to a kind of love that brings light and sunshine to your day, and you will cherish every moment.

What its like to have a child with Down syndrome…. you will open the door to a beautiful secret, but I cant tell you or it wouldn't be a secret.  You might not see it right away, but you will know when you find it :)