try to connect

Before Lincoln was born, I had no connection to the world of disabilities.  Had I met someone on the street, in the store, or at church, I would have had no idea how to interact with them.  It is not that I was ever trying to be hurtful, I was just naive because the disability world had never been a part of my experience.  I am aware that many of you who read my blog may find yourselves in the same position. Lincoln may be the first person you have met with a disability, and sometimes you may find yourself wondering what to say, what not to say, or how to act/react.  For those of you who have ever felt this way, I give you this:

3 THINGS I WISH YOU WOULD DO:

Ask questions Asking questions is a great way to start a conversation.  I love talking about Lincoln, about Down syndrome, and about the journey that we are on. If you care to know something, ask! Asking questions is a great way to learn more, and to ultimately better understand and appreciate Lincoln and others who share an extra chromosome. 
Listen Listening goes hand-in-hand with asking questions, but sometimes it can go beyond that.  There are times in everyone’s life when we just need a listening ear.  Sometimes I just need someone to listen to me as I vent about some of the difficulties that come along with raising a child with Down Syndrome and parenting in general. Not looking for someone to solve everything for me, but just to listen as I try to work it out. 
Get to know Lincoln  Lincoln is an amazing little boy!  He has a very distinct, loveable, mischievous personality.  Interact with him.  Play with him.  Communicate with him.  Treat him with the same love and respect with which you would treat any other kiddo.  Do not let him get away with things you wouldn’t let your kids get away with!  You will be surprised at what you will learn.